At this point, am I just hopeless?

I find it strange that the only time I have honestly been in love was when I was 16 years old. Looking at the heartbreak of ending that relationship and now, looking back at all relationships since, I realize I have never felt that way again...that emotionally invested. It's as though I intentionally put myself into those relationships because I knew they would fail. It makes a certain kind of sense. I've endured a lot in my life, made mistakes, learned, and rebuilt. Now, I find one thing I wish I had was a real relationship. I want to fall in love....I want to settle down....I'm 28 years old and I want a family....and yet, here I am, with no ability to talk to women...no ability to express myself properly. I'm a hopelessly shy guy with no clue. This is the sort of predicament that makes it difficult to pursue a relationship...especially when confidence was never an issue before. I need help......